Healing After Pregnancy Loss
Miscarriage or Stillbirth
The loss of a baby during any point in pregnancy can be a physically and emotionally devastating experience. You may feel shock, anger, sadness, numb, anxious, guilt or as though you are somehow responsible, envious of other pregnant women, and overwhelmingly exhausted all in the same day. Any time a body goes from being pregnant to not being pregnant, there is a significant shift in hormones that can affect brain chemistry. Postpartum depression, anxiety, and other mood disorders can affect a mom regardless of the point at which a baby is delivered. You are likely in a position where you need to process through grief while also having a vulnerable brain chemistry. This can make the experience of healing feel impossible for many. You are not alone. These feelings are completely natural and normal and although it may not feel like it, with support, you can heal and feel better again.
Miscarriages and Stillbirths are often mourned alone and could be an invisible loss to the world around you. You may feel isolated in your heartache. Family and friends may not understand the complexity and depth of your grief, they may not realize how profoundly difficult it is for you to process such an intimate loss. Even partners may have difficulty connecting to the death in the same way that a mother carrying a pregnancy would. There are no rituals to mourn a miscarriage, no established memorials or religious services to help make the loss more tangible and to help you say goodbye to your baby.
There are no ‘shoulds’ in this process. There is no one way to grieve this loss. You have a right to your feelings during this time, and no one can tell you otherwise. You also don't have to go through your loss alone. Therapy can successfully reduce symptoms of sadness, depression, anger and anxiety to help you resolve your grief with space and time.
Contact Lauren to discuss ways therapy can be beneficial for you at this difficult time.